Here is our African Proverb of the day: ‘A man who decides to carry his mother-in-law on his back across a flooded river must be prepared to hold her buttocks firmly’.
This proverb, likely originated from the Luo people of Kenya and Tanzania, is a humorous and blunt way of saying that when you marry someone, you also take on responsibilities and challenges related to their family.
The proverb is a reality check and a vivid imagery to convey a deeper message about family relationships and responsibilities in marriage.
The saying typically emphasizes the importance of preparing oneself to face challenges and take on responsibilities that come with marrying into a family.
Putting it in the right context, ‘Holding her buttocks firmly’ sits well with the physical act of carrying someone on one’s back.
In summary, this African proverb implies the following:
1. That, when you marry someone, you are not just committing to your partner alone; you are also engaging with their family.
2.That caring for your partner’s family members, like a mother-in-law, requires effort, patience, and sometimes uncomfortable or challenging situations.
SOURCE: Kasatintin.com
Photo:Sourced from Ghanaian Times. Image in this blog used for educational puporses.
